The deeper you are in love with your partner, more severe are the chances of your developing an anxiety state of a fear of losing him/her. The greater this anxiety is, the greater are your efforts of holding your partner tight and not allow him/her to go away from you. You develop a doubt about yourself, and you are afraid of whether your relationship will last or not. Hundreds of questions haunt you about your partner. You become a constantly worrying type. You suffer from insecurity. And you are anxious about whether your relationship will last or not.
Is it common?
Definitely yes if you are honest about your relationship. It may happen anytime, at the start or in the middle of a relationship. Relationship anxiety can lead to emotional distress, depression, frustration, fatigue, or any other physical ailment, in the long run. Your such situations may create distress to your partner also.
How do you know that you suffer from relationship anxiety?
- You start having self-doubts. You start worrying about how much you matter to your partner. You start to feel insecure in your relationship and you cannot connect with your partner.
- You start doubting your partner’s feelings for you. Your expression of love is not reciprocated by your partner as per your expectations. Your messages remain unattended or there is no reply. This happens but it may turn into relationship anxiety if you are not mentally stable.
- You start worrying about your partner’s intentions. Is he/she planning to break up? Is your partner going to leave you? You start worrying about the behaviour of your partner and start noticing actions that are not liked by you and you think that they are intentional to annoy you. You start taking them as signals of your partner leaving you.
- You doubt if you are compatible in your relationship and if the relationship will continue. It happens even at times everything is fine and there is no reason for thinking so. You are burdened by doubts and start shaking with anxiety.
- Your such actions may damage your relationship against your will. Your partner may be not able to understand the reasons of your anxiety and start slowly drifting away from you. And this is the last thing you want.
- You start thinking about your partner’s actions, thoughts and words round the clock. You start trying to find reasons for everything your partner does, and you become a real worrying type.
- You are no longer focussing on the good times you had with your partner. Instead, you are scared that your partner does not want to have good time with you.
It may happen because of your previous bad experiences in relationships and your low self-confidence. It may be due to your childhood family habits or your tendency to become over inquisitive about everything.
But you can overcome it:
- You have to be aware about your identity and maintain it. Do not lose it and allow it to shift to your partner as you become closer.
- You need to be more mindful without judging everything.
- You have to be a good communicator. You need to work on it if you are not good at it.
- Do not pay attention to what you feel. Pay attention to realities and you will be carefree.
If you are still unable to have results, you can consult a professional for help.
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